Using Emotional Abuse
- Putting you down
- Making you feel bad about yourself
- Calling you names
- Making you think you're crazy
- Playing mind games
- Humiliating you
- Making you feel guilty
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Using Privilege
- Treating you like a servant
- Making all the big decisions
- Acting like the "Master"
- Being the one to define roles
- Making you unimportant
- Punishment for not "obeying"
- Ordering you around
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Using Economic Abuse- Preventing you from getting a job
- Making you ask for money
- Giving you an allowance
- Taking your money
- Secretive about income
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Using Coercion and Threats- Making or carrying out threats
- Threatening to leave, to commit suicide, to report you to welfare
- Making you drop charges
- Making you do illegal things
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Using Intimidation- Making you afraid
(looks, gestures, actions) - Smashing things
- Abusing Pets
- Displaying Weapons
- Threatening to expose your "weakness"
- Threatening to "tell"
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Using Children- Making you feel guilty
about the children
- Using the children to relay messages
- Using visitation
to harass you
- Threatening to take the children
- Threatening to hurt you through them
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Using Isolation- Controlling what you do, who you see and talk to, what you read, & where you go
- Limiting your outside involvement
- Using jealousy to justify actions
- Destroying your support system
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Minimizing, Denying, Blaming- Making light of the abuse and not taking your concerns about it seriously
- Saying the abuse didn't happen
- Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
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