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I Thought I Was the Crazy One: 201 Ways to Identify and Deal with Toxic PeopleI Thought I Was the Crazy One: 201 Ways to Identify and Deal with Toxic People

Toxic personality traits are found in more than half of all spouses, partners, or intimates, leading them to demand much, give little, and treat others shabbily. These traits are identified and targeted in this relationship guide. Helpful advice includes how to parent oneself, how to nurture the soul, and how to move toxic people toward learning the consequences of unacceptable behavior. This holistic approach provides a fresh perspective on dealing with personality disorders and rebuilding the self-esteem that gets destroyed by those toxic people. Kindle edition available.


Symptoms: Indicators of Abusive Relationships

Using Emotional Abuse

  • Putting you down
  • Making you feel bad about yourself
  • Calling you names
  • Implying that you are crazy
  • Playing mind games
  • Using guilt as a weapon of control
  • Using humiliation

Using Privilege

  • Treating you like a servant
  • Making all decisions for the family or couple
  • Acting like an owner or master
  • Being the one to define and enforce roles
  • Expecting you to obey like a child

Using Coercion and Threats

  • Making or carrying out threats
  • Threatening to leave
  • Threating to harm themself if you leave
  • Threatening to hurt other family members or pets if you leave
  • Threatening to report you to police, child welfare, etc. to control you
  • Threatening to file false charges against you
  • Using threats to get you to drop charges
  • Threatening to expose a secret

Using Intimidation

  • Making you afraid - looks, gestures, actions
  • Smashing things
  • Abusing pets
  • Displaying weapons
  • Threatening to expose a secret

Using the Children

  • Using the children to relay messages
  • Using visitation to harass you
  • Threatening to take the children
  • Threatening to harm the children

Using Isolation

  • Controlling what you do
  • Controlling who you see or talk to
  • Limiting your outside involvement
  • Not letting you work
  • Not letting you receive an education
  • Using jealousy to justify actions against you
  • Destroying your support system

Minimizing, Denying and Blaming

  • Making light of the abuse
  • Saying abusive behavior was not abusive
  • Shifting the responsibility for the behavior to you

In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People

Whether it's your mate, your child, your boss, or a co-worker, if they know how to get the better of you and look good at the same time, you are being skillfully manipulated. To stop being a victim, you have to know how to spot these "wolves in sheep's clothing." Using case studies, Dr. Simon reveals the tactics manipulators like to use and tells you how to respond to them.


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