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Stalking is a crime of terror with a beginning, but seemingly no end. It's a crime of fear that leaves no physical cuts or bruises - at least not unless the stalker becomes desperate and acts out in violence, which is often the case.

According to a 1993-94 U.S. Department of Justice study, women are the victims in 90 percent of the cases nationwide and 1 in 20 of them will be stalked sometime in their life. Thirty-eight percent of stalking victims are single women between 20 and 45 years old, but teens and older people can be targets too. More and more of them are being caught up in terrifying web of obsession, a terrifying pursuit of the victim.

The difference between harrassment and stalking is a distinction of the law. Stalking occurs when harrassing behavior is repeated, is threatening, is purposefully directed at a specific person, and would cause a reasonable person to fear bodily injury or death for themselves or a family member. Sometimes, it's just surveillance; everyplace you go, the stalker is there. Without a doubt it's emotional terrorism. The victim can't get away. Then there are telephone calls - 20 to 50 a day, notes on the windshield, or they're in the grocery store when you are, then they show up at an event 50 miles away.

That's what's so frightening. How can this person know what your schedule is, where you're going? But they do. Stalkers may break into their victim's house, read their mail, listen to their answering machine or move things around, just to let them know they've been there.

Many people think this could only happen to celebrities. In fact it was the California stalker murder of actress Rebecca Schaffer of the television series "My Sister Sam," that prompted the nation's first anti-stalking law in 1990. Celebrities Jodie Foster, David Letterman and Madonna have suffered from stalking. But studies show that more than 80 percent of vicitms are "ordinary" people.

Stalkers fall into two categories of motivation according to forensic psychologists: love obsession and simple obsession. People who stalk celebrities fall into the first category. Although they have no relationship with their target, they are convinced that they can make the celebrity love them. When their victim doesn't "follow the script," they may use threats, intimidation or violence to make their obsession "come true." They can also become obsessed with a stranger or casual acquaintance.

But most stalking targets, about 75 percent, have some previous personal relationship with the stalker. This is the simple obsession and can be the most dangerous. This type stalker may or may not have a psychological disorder, but all have been found to have personality disorders, according to the FBI Center for Crime Analysis. They are generally above average in intelligence, but are socially maladjusted, emotionally immature and suffer from feelings of powerlessness, jealousy and low self esteem, FBI studies show. They use their controlling relationship to feel more powerful.

The most common harrassment/stalker cases dealt with are those of simple obsession: a relationship or marriage goes sour and the jilted person is unable to accept it. The personality problems are what can make this type of stalker dangerous, especially if there is a history of domestic abuse. The reason they are so dangerous is that they stalk out of anger, hurt and revenge. They may be looking for a way to justify their rage. The simple obsessive stalker is likely to develop the idea, "If I can't have you, then nobody else will either.

Stalkers come from every soci-economic and educational background. There have been professionals found guilty of stalking, as well as laborers and those of middle incomes and educations. The common denominator is the fear they inspire. That fear is often justified, especially if it comes at the end of a relationship. Statictically, most homicide victims KNOW their perpetrator.

How to Change Your Social Security NumberChanging Your Social Security Number: The SSA joins with other Federal agencies to provide greater assistance to victims of domestic violence. Some victims seeking to elude their abuser and reduce the risk of further violence choose to establish a new identity. As part of that effort, it may be helpful to obtain a new Social Security number (SSN).

ADT SecurityADT - Free Security Systems for Victims of Domestic Violence: The ADT AWAREŽ program is a coordinated effort among ADT Security Services, representatives of local law enforcement agencies, prosecutor's offices and battered women's shelters. After these community groups have selected participants for the program, ADT donates and installs electronic security systems in the homes of victims of domestic violence. The systems include a hold-up alarm pendant, which can be worn or carried with the victim while in the home. In the event of an imminent attack, the victim can press the button on the pendant, sending an immediate, silent alarm to ADT, which in turn notifies the appropriate police agency. Law enforcement agencies participating in the AWAREŽ program have agreed to respond to these AWAREŽ alarms on a priority basis.

US Legal Forms for Name Change
In most states you can legally change your name by usage only. However, an official court document may make it much easier to get everyone to accept your new name. Restrictions on name choices include not choosing a name with fraudulent intent, not interfering with the rights of others, not using a name that would be intentionally confusing (for example a number or punctuation mark), and not choosing names that are racial slurs, threatening or obscene. For further help, check out U.S. Legal Forms. They offer legal name change form packages for all 50 states, and also have links to the relevant statutes for each state.

Also be sure to check out this article: Changing Your Name from SoYouWanna.com.
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